"...our errors"

I was reading on another site a flame war over race Southern identity, and the facts of history. We're in a Cold Civil War. This because the last one was never really resolved.

I cautiously Commented: "Well regional Southern pride tends to over look things or explain them down to manageable proportions. The Civil War was a Northern invasion. Slavery was mostly humane, and such.
A large portion of older Southerners sincerely believe this. Just as we believe our version. And here we are with two opposed deeply held "truths".

I always thought some sort of Truth, and Reconciliation process should be used to end our cultures wars. It's more or less worked in a few countries. South Africa the prime example. They were on the verge of a genocidal race war,...but pulled back. We might consider the same.
Neither side will get all they want. However we will tell our stories admit our errors explain our truths, and avoid national suicide.